#25: The #1 Key to Turn a Boring Christmas Party into a Friend Making Machine [podcast]

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This past Sunday, we hosted one of our top 5 parties ever. (No this wasn’t our 5th party, more like our 50th plus.) The results: There were 26 people that laughed a ton and left closer. No there wasn’t large quantity alcohol involved with people embarrassing themselves. The 16 kids adopted nicknames. They are plotting […]

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#20: A Sure Fire Way to Great Conversations over Dinner [podcast/video]

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Ever been at a stale boring dinner? You can host a lively dinner with this technique.

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#18: Try this Method to Resolve Conflict Well–It’s Working for Millions, part 2 [podcast & video]

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Have you ever had that experience where you are stuck in a conflict? You think you know how you got there, yet you don’t know how to get out, and you surely don’t know how to quench the fire that is raging! I, Doug, am a master at getting myself stuck. Yet, even I have […]

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#017: Try this Method to Resolve Conflict Well–It’s Working for Millions [podcast & video]

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Have you ever felt stuck in a friendship, because you had an unpleasant conflict and didn’t know what to do about it? Here is the method that has, and is, helping millions learn how to have those difficult conversations. One of the key ingredients in this method is to believe that we wrongly interpret the […]

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#014: An interview with Cliff Ravenscraft. How do I ________ about others?

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It is amazing how much my emotions can swing from joy to sorrow and back again based on small life events or interactions. In this interview with Cliff Ravenscraft, he reminds me what my life is about. When I get this correct, so much goes right inside me. This interview is about how to connect with others.

Near the end of the interview, Cliff shares strong and needed words on how to remember other’s names and facts about them. He gives both practical tips and general concepts on how to connect with others.

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#011: THE KEY SKILL TO LISTENING THAT NO ONE TOLD US. HERE IT IS. Part 3 [Podcast]

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There I was about ready to lose it emotionally. I could feel my brain fighting to regain a sense of calm while the “uncalm” part was winning. Why? Because less than one hour ago, Andrea had told me exactly how she would like me to install the cedar trim for the door. Now, the cedar boards were cut and nailed into place.
But it didn’t go so well!

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#010: The Key Skill to Listening That No One Told Us, Here it Is (Part 2) [Podcast]

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You are either gaining or losing in your friendships based on how well you listen. Listening is like a bonus check you deposit in the bank. Lack of listening is withdrawing from the account, if you go negative, they close the account. In this podcast, we talk about how you can determine your beliefs about the outcomes from listening.

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#009: The Key Skill to Listening That No One Told Us, Here it Is [Podcast]

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What does Sam Palmisano, former CEO of IBM, Tom Peters, author of In Search of Excellence, your mother, your wife, your kids and your friends all want from you? One thing that takes relationships to a new level. One skill that can turn you from unwanted to wanted. Most of the advice on this one skill is not helpful, because it overlooks the one thing that will define your ability to be successful. It will stunt your ability to grow relationally.

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#008: Here is the Method That Finally Freed Me from Being an Offensive Advice Giver [Podcast]

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I was a master at giving Offensive Advice. I had the ability to get them mad and walk away. Isn’t it true that the wounds of a friend are better than the kisses of an enemy? Aren’t we being helpful by pointing out the other person’s mistakes, so they won’t make them again? What could be more loving than giving them advice for them to grow? Yeah. I have felt the “love” of unsolicited advice and learned it is not loving. Below is what cured my Offensive Advice problem.

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#005: The Phone is Your Friend to Make Great Friends, How to Make Friends in Our Busy Life [Podcast]

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In an age of electronic connections, we can forget the power of person-to-person/voice-to-voice connections. There is a recent University of Michigan study that confirms we need person to person connections. Here is a link to that article: University of Michigan Research.

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