#017: Try this Method to Resolve Conflict Well–It’s Working for Millions [podcast & video]

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Have you ever felt stuck in a friendship, because you had an unpleasant conflict and didn’t know what to do about it? Here is the method that has, and is, helping millions learn how to have those difficult conversations. One of the key ingredients in this method is to believe that we wrongly interpret the […]

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#016: How Can You Get 500 People Around Your Table? Interview with Sarah Harmeyer [podcast]

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Can you imagine hosting 500 people in one year around your backyard table? Sarah from the Neighbor’s Table did it. She shares her experience in reaching that goal and practical tips on how to connect with others.

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#015: How to Stop Running Ragged and Start Making Friends. Interview with Joel Boggess [podcast]

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Have you ever had this experience when you met someone? You say, “Hello, John, how are you?” John replies, “Busy. Crazy busy. You know with all the stuff of life. But it sure beats the option of being bored.”

You reply, “Yeah. Life is busy. I am super busy and tonight we have 3 activities to juggle. Good chatting.”

How often do we check email? Do you ever check your email on your phone right before you go to sleep? Don’t we expect people to answer our email in less than 4 hours?

How do we get off the busyness merry go round?

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#014: An interview with Cliff Ravenscraft. How do I ________ about others?

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It is amazing how much my emotions can swing from joy to sorrow and back again based on small life events or interactions. In this interview with Cliff Ravenscraft, he reminds me what my life is about. When I get this correct, so much goes right inside me. This interview is about how to connect with others.

Near the end of the interview, Cliff shares strong and needed words on how to remember other’s names and facts about them. He gives both practical tips and general concepts on how to connect with others.

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#013: Learn How to Find Friends Right Where You Live, Work & Play [podcast]

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Once there was a man who walked down to the corner store every morning to get his newspaper. He found the people on the walk to be grumpy and rude. The kids at the bus stop never said “hi.” The lady, who walked her dog at the same time, never even looked his way. The […]

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#012: 10 Ways to Sabotage Your Friendship Search [podcast]

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Gary was asking me about friendship and finally got to his real question, “I hate meeting strangers.  I am an introvert.  What would you say to someone like me who isn’t going to reach out to others?”  My answer was, “There is not magic pill that will solve the need for you to reach out […]

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#011: THE KEY SKILL TO LISTENING THAT NO ONE TOLD US. HERE IT IS. Part 3 [Podcast]

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There I was about ready to lose it emotionally. I could feel my brain fighting to regain a sense of calm while the “uncalm” part was winning. Why? Because less than one hour ago, Andrea had told me exactly how she would like me to install the cedar trim for the door. Now, the cedar boards were cut and nailed into place.
But it didn’t go so well!

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#010: The Key Skill to Listening That No One Told Us, Here it Is (Part 2) [Podcast]

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You are either gaining or losing in your friendships based on how well you listen. Listening is like a bonus check you deposit in the bank. Lack of listening is withdrawing from the account, if you go negative, they close the account. In this podcast, we talk about how you can determine your beliefs about the outcomes from listening.

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#009: The Key Skill to Listening That No One Told Us, Here it Is [Podcast]

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What does Sam Palmisano, former CEO of IBM, Tom Peters, author of In Search of Excellence, your mother, your wife, your kids and your friends all want from you? One thing that takes relationships to a new level. One skill that can turn you from unwanted to wanted. Most of the advice on this one skill is not helpful, because it overlooks the one thing that will define your ability to be successful. It will stunt your ability to grow relationally.

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#008: Here is the Method That Finally Freed Me from Being an Offensive Advice Giver [Podcast]

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I was a master at giving Offensive Advice. I had the ability to get them mad and walk away. Isn’t it true that the wounds of a friend are better than the kisses of an enemy? Aren’t we being helpful by pointing out the other person’s mistakes, so they won’t make them again? What could be more loving than giving them advice for them to grow? Yeah. I have felt the “love” of unsolicited advice and learned it is not loving. Below is what cured my Offensive Advice problem.

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